dreams, however, not only go unfulfilled or are altered, but they also are shattered and destroyed, and with them a portion of our life as well. I saw this in the eyes and posture of this young man’s father and in his siblings, in his fiancée and her family, in his grandparents and friends. Many times I heard this phrase or something similar expressed: “There’s an empty place in my life, an immense hole, and it will never be filled in again.” I listened to stories of this young man who was on the